"C'è posta per te!".. incontrarsi con un click: le relazioni che nascono in internet
by Dr. Anna Chiara Venturini, a psychologist at Ancona
To those of us happen to feel lonely among so many? Those who have tried at least once feeling of being out of place in the place where you live? Why are not compatible people with shared interests, because the mentality a bit 'restricted to a small country holds us, because instead of the big city is too big and scares us to throw new people? Because you feel inadequate, different, special? I think happens to many, and in a context such as that described, it is difficult to find friends, it is virtually impossible to find a partner.com do? Some people sometimes find the solution in another place, without moving from his house in the virtual world, internet, non-place par excellence. And is more than anyone and more than once: nel 2007 l’incremento di relazioni nate dall’incontro virtuale è cresciuto del 20-30%. Tra i circa 6 milioni di single in Italia, sono più di 3 milioni a cercare e/o trovare rapporti con l’ausilio del web.Chat, forum, newsgroup e soprattutto siti di dating, ultima frontiera sull’onda di questa tendenza, pubblicizzata anche in tv (è il caso di Meetic, nella quale pubblicità la neo-coppia passata da virtuale a reale racconta ai genitori con quale mezzo si sono conosciuti), e che rappresenta la modernissima evoluzione delle vecchie “agenzie matrimoniali”. Due sono i profili principali coinvolti: ci sono quelli che si vogliono principalmente divertire, che vogliono provare, che spinti dall’incoscienza typical of young age, they throw in a search of fun and funny at times but also fraught with danger, they are more males than females, between 18 and 30 years and usually do not seek a report stabile.Il second aspect concerns those who you approach the Internet with a purpose and far-sighted: they want to start a family, do not rush time, but rather dilute them, to be born and grow outbreaks of feeling as natural as possible, despite everything, they are more women than men, and are aged 30 years and over. There is also another small slice of those 3 million Italians, who finds love and sex on the Internet, almost by chance, without looking for: someone to come across joke, two words that then become a river, you find similarities, we exchanged a photo like that happens and then decide the match, and one wonders succede.Quel that is, born from such relationships, it can really grow the 'love? We can say that this is the main question of those who study or observe the curious phenomenon. Certainly, the approach works. Anyone looking for a partner or while you seek, you feel alone and misunderstood in its original environment, as mentioned at the beginning, and is located on the Internet to pass the time, can run into people through the PC screen, seem to have a similar way of thinking, common interests, similar desires. The strength of a virtual communication, principalmente testuale, è quella di poter usare un’abbondante dose di fantasia, di far correre la mente per costruire su misura il personaggio che abbiamo “di fronte”, sul modello dei nostri desideri più intimi e delle nostre necessità, come sostiene anche Daniele La Barbera, presidente della Società Italiana di Psicotecnologie. Quando poi siamo già presi a livello ideale, sopraggiunge magari il contatto telefonico, l’approccio uditivo e sentire la voce dell’altro/a ci fa fantasticare ancora di più. Poi lo scambio di foto e poi gli incontri. A volte capita che la persona incontrata non piaccia fisicamente, a volte invece il coinvolgimento ideale è tale da farci piacere anche un fisico che normalmente we would not have looked just like a real love affair and "traditional." Sometimes we are faced with the person of our dreams, even on an aesthetic level. But if there are problems, they are after, because in the real relationship, you may find that the person who finally touch, is not exactly as we had idealized. And the castle started crollare.Oppure, can be a total disaster from the first meeting: the picture that we have seen does not match, who spoke only wanted to play and does not occur, or, at worst, we find some dangerous person, which is good to get away as soon as possible.
This is the picture that most would expect and more lies. But there are cases where the virtual has worked just fine. People get married, even had children, lived wonderfully intense stories, born of a PC. Why? Why, beyond the idealization, as well as the prejudices, speak before I see, you will discover aspects of other people in "normal" may or may not ever come out. Because we know in the depths before it outwardly. Why in the virtual know sometimes the true identity of a person who is revealed as a protected computer and which in reality we would not have given a penny, just looking at it, instead of taking away infinite.Perché possibility now could bridge the gap between the physical places, thanks to media like the Internet, not only should there be more than it literally gives the square of their country or their neighborhood, perhaps completely incompatible with us, but only Available: with the internet you can find someone who is really born to be with us, you can "risk" to find the other half of our androgynous, scattered who knows where we can not know. But it also happens that the meetings "Internet users", great stories are born of pure sex, without involvement, without complications. Because that's what you want is what you want o è quello che si trova. Spesso, spessissimo, l’intesa sessuale e fisica è difficile da trovare, ottenere. E per puro caso, possiamo trovarla su su internet, perché, come detto sopra, le persone che possono star bene con noi, essere compatibili con noi da ogni punto di vista, possono trovarsi ovunque nel mondo. Non è mai vero che siamo soli, incompresi, diversi. Da qualche parte c’è sempre qualcuno che è nato per stare con noi, fosse anche in un solo aspetto della vita, come il sesso. Il consiglio quindi è: se l’esperienza vi stuzzica, perché non provarci, ma attenzione e occhi aperti: i pericoli in agguato, i pericoli veri, sono tanti.
La Dott.ssa Venturini, psicologa ad Ancona, riceve su appuntamento
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Sunday, October 11, 2009
When Is A Good Time To Throw A Bridal Shower
"Usually I'm not a religious man, but if you're up there, save me, Superman!"
"Ok brain, I do not like you, and you do not like me ... but let's do this thing so I can return to being bombarded with beer ... done deal. "
" You did your best and you failed. The lesson is: never try ... "
" D'oh! "
Who does not know Homer Simpson? Who has not seen on the "evil" black box (or colored or flat, or even more, I apologize for technical personnel) of his adventures and his misfortunes, his actions and his reactions, his emotions and his empty , his sudden anger and his perpetual laziness? Well, what I would do is to understand the value of the person Homer Simpson, his behavior, the symbolic codes of its intentions and its actions. I think it's entertaining and important. Fun for all the fans of The Simpsons, including myself that you are having a great time to write. Important for the contemporary relevance, as Homer can be with good reason the average American, or even more, the average western of our time: to understand Homer, in his positive and negative sides (ahiaaa'm already anticipating too !) , may shed light on our present condition, highlighting the likely merits and obvious deficiencies. HOMER AND ARISTOTLE
Taking a cue from the book "The Simpsons and Philosophy" (2005) by W. Irwin, MT Conard and AJ Skoblar, I analyze the ethical conduct of Homer. What's right, if any, and what's wrong, if any, in his behavior? Why do we feel an innate sympathy for this character, despite all his "unusual" actions? Well, in order to gain a comprehensive view about it and be able to sketch out an answer, I believe we can not help but Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics. It is a wonderful text, smooth and pleasant to read of the utmost importance to the issues addressed, making it a fundamental text of moral philosophy: the ethical practice of virtue, justice, friendship, happiness, to name the main issues.
To understand the meaning, compariamoli between them as manifested in the form of actions, decisions and desires, he may see at work each character in its particular context. Suppose that someone, for example, Lisa, 're walking down the street and found a wallet containing a lot of money. Now if Lisa was virtuous, as it actually is, not just decide to give the authority but would do it willingly. I want Lisa to go hand in hand with his decision and his actions. If we think instead of a Lenny, continent, the situation is different: it would be able to decide the right way (ie, return the wallet) and also to follow up with action at the decision but it would go against his wishes. The situation worsened somewhat with the incontinent and vicious: the first, such as Bart, is able to make the right decision, but his will is weak and succumb to his wishes recalcitrant to reason with the result of keeping the money. The vicious but does not really fight against his desires, or weakness of will. The decision of the circle is morally wrong and his desires to fully nourish (eg Nelson). After this quick overview, if we focus on what makes virtuous, we see that not enough to possess a virtue, but this must be accompanied by the feeling and condition of the character. Again, it plays a crucial role: the virtuous person must possess the critical thinking skills that allows him to distinguish the differences in the situations and act correctly.
Data in maniera molto sommaria e circoscritta questa idea di virtù di Aristotele, le cose per Homer si mettono davvero male (d’oh!). Per cominciare, si prenda in considerazione la virtù della temperanza che consiste (anche if you could discuss) the possibility of moderating our bodily appetites. Without having an acute powers of observation, anyone who realizes how Homer is far from tempering. Compared to his bodily appetites is definitely vicious. This is particularly true with regard to the consumption of food and drink, rather than her sexual activity.
desires led him to gorge themselves, and he gave them willingly. For example, Homer eats heartily half sandwich of his colleague Frank Grimes (Grimmione!) despite the obvious sign of the property bag (property of Frank Grimes). The desire for food Homer takes him also to create new recipes: for example, wraps a half-baked waffle around a stick of butter ("aaa burrooo") and obviously eats. Homer has health problems, but he did not care and eat more than before: after eating bad meat to the Kwik-E-Mart and he felt bad, rather than continue its lawsuit against Apu is immediately calmed by the bid free of rancid shrimp . Homer never stops: even at night, half asleep, we find him open the fridge and ... "Mmm ... sixty-four slices of American cheese" and proceeds to eat them all. Without
then talk about his passion for beer, so that his name has become synonymous with Duff. Homer is a liar: mind when one thinks of his family about his plans for the day, telling them that going to work, while it is in fact preparing for a tour of the Duff brewery. Murge in mind the fact that he never graduated, or the mind with regard to financial losses, or the minds about gun which swears to be free. Homer is also insensitive to the needs of others and seems to lack in goodness and righteousness. When Ned Flanders finds itself in bankruptcy, attempting to convince him to sell his furniture at bargain prices just because of its difficult economic situation. Or he says to Bart: "you gave both dogs? You know how I feel about the gift. " Or by a jury in the trial of Freddy Quimby vota innocente non per convinzione, ma per poter trascorrere, a causa dello stallo dei voti, dei giorni gratis al gran hotel di Springfield.
Homer ha un certo numero di compagni ma che non sembrano amici. Ricordiamo la straordinaria importanza dell’amicizia per Aristotele, al punto da dire che una vita senza amici non è degna di essere vissuta. Ebbene Homer ha dei compagni di bevuta (Barney, Lenny, Carl), ma non ha nessuno con cui condividere mete, attività, piaceri, dolori (ammesso che pensi ad altro oltre al bere e al mangiare). Anche le abilità di padre, marito e lavoratore di Homer sembrano lascino a desiderare. Tenta di ottenere l’affetto di lisa comprandole un pony. Stimola la rivalità tra i due fratelli quando si trovano di fronte in una partita di Hockey. Senza dimenticare i numerosi tentativi di strozzare Bart, preceduti da un “Tu, piccolo ….”. Per ultimo, ma non meno grave, si dimentica costantemente dell’esistenza di Maggie. Difetta anche nei confronti di Murge: non supporta i suoi progetti oppure vi rimane indifferente. Anzi, quando prova ad aiutarla riesce solo a peggiorare la situazione, come quando chiama dei mafiosi per eliminare la concorrenza e favorire l’attività dei pretzel.
Infine è un irresponsabile e incompetente addetto alla sicurezza nucleare, al punto da portare più volte l’intera città sull’orlo dell’annichilimento, come gli mostra Grimmione, or as the facts (leakage of toxic gas from Chiappone foiled by a miracle of Homer) when working at home, disability due to obesity (but should be?).
After all, now, we can ask: why all this? What prevents Homer to be virtuous? In other words, the only intellectual virtue necessary for ethical behavior: the Phronesis. Practical wisdom is the ability to move around the world with intelligence, morality, and with a goal in sight. The crucial element of practical reasoning is the ability to organize their lives according to important and worthy goals and pursue them responsibly, that is, with knowledge of their choices. Homer ha parecchi sogni, come diventare un autista di monorotaia, oppure possedere i Dallas Cowboy, ma i sogni non sono scopi. Se Homer ha uno scopo nella vita, è quello senza valore di una vita passata a mangiare, bere e impigrirsi. Se si aggiunge a tutto questo la sua credulità vi ritroverete una persona con capacità di ragionamento minime.
Aspetta la fine, ci sono lati ammirevoli in Homer che ancora non sono venuti fuori e poi tireremo le somme … abbi pazienza ancora un po’.
In effetti non dobbiamo essere troppo duri. Si potrebbe for example, argue that despite the existence of Maggie forget, paradoxically, the job of Homer is full of his pictures. In addition, he has never knowingly committed adultery (when Ned marries a waitress in Las Vegas is not clear whether he had sex with her drunk). With Murge demonstrates caring and loving when such married to repair their poor first ceremony. On occasion it also shows the courage rebels against Mr. Burns because he wants too much or because he does not remember his name. Punches George Bush (how many of us would have liked!). Homer stupid? It is not always the case. For example, when it becomes beer baron, weaves a complex and sophisticated plan to introduce contraband alcohol in Springfield. He even manages to mention, even if you do not remember the name, Jesus as a person who is opposed to orthodox practices and that, by behaving like that, he was right.
What are we to make of this? What do you think we can give up Homer? Homer certainly is not bad. Of course it's not even a model of virtue, but it is not malicious, and she proves that the reaction harder than we have in him is pity.
has primarily of mitigating circumstances. First of all, grew up in Springfield, a city whose inhabitants, with the exception of Lisa, have serious character flaws, ranging from stupidity to malice, dall'inettitudine indifference. Instead be raised in a healthy environment is one of the basic assumptions in the project of the Aristotelian Society Policy, which is essential to build the best possible. Moreover, even the education that Homer has been left to be desired. His mother abandoned him when he was still young and his father has never encouraged to become a good person, always ignored and even rejected its aspirations. Second Homer rarely does harm to others or is envious. When acting with the deliberate purpose to harm someone, all of us, I think we would agree that this someone does not deserve better treatment. For example, Patty and Selma. Or Burns is the exemplar of the capitalist, republican greedy, evil, ruthless toward animals, people and environment. And then? What is the light of all this, the importance of being Homer? What is admirable in him? We finished in a clear and evident that Homer is not a virtuoso, but not a circle (except for food and beer). What basically we like him? What attracts us? What it takes to make his way to live, to be? We are at this point. The quality that explains the possibility to admire Homer is the love of life or, to put it to Ned Flanders, "an intoxicating lust for life." It is not a trivial conclusion, since many sono portati a vedere in Homer solo buffonaggine e immoralità. Homer ama il godimento della vita, senza curarsi del conformismo: non gli interessa né l’etichetta che la gente gli dà né cosa pensino gli altri di lui. Se poi a tutto ciò aggiungiamo il fatto che Homer è un cittadino della classe medio-alta-bassa costantemente in lotta, che lavora in fabbrica sotto la tirannia di uno spietato capitalista, che vive a Springfield, allora una persona come lui che decide di amare la vita è decisamente ammirevole. La passione per la vita di Homer emerge come qualità importante soprattutto nella nostra epoca. Da un lato, ed è quello negativo, Homer rappresenta l’occidentale medio dominato da un razionalità strumentale volta only to satisfy his needs according to a logic-acquisitive self (this is described in modern politics by Thomas Hobbes, and the social aspects of Max Weber). Secondly, however, in Homer is the antidote to nihilism, lack of solidarity, sealing themselves in the "wall" that Western society this entails. The antidote, we should all at least as much value to condemn the side to lazy, selfish, indifferent, this is the passion and life. Paul
"I can not live a conventional life like yours. I want everything. Daring descents and ascents stunned. The cream in the middle. Sure, I could offendere qualche naso dal sangue blu con il mio incedere vanitoso e il mio odore muschiato. io non sarò mai il prediletto dei cosiddetti Padri della città che schioccano la lingua, si allisciano la barba e parlano di cosa deve esser fatto di questo Homer Simpson.”
N.B. tutte le citazioni sono di Homer Simpson
Friday, October 9, 2009
Steam Treatment For Hair
Odenplan: Stockholm to defeat the escalator! The disease
I Gradini Della Metro Come Tasti Di Pianoforte, e Il 66% Dei Pendolari Rinuncia Alle Scale Mobili.
(Adnkronos Salute) - Le scale della metro si trasformano in un insolito pianoforte gigante, e il 66% della gente di passaggio decide di dar l'addio all'irrinunciabile scala mobile pur di emettere qualche nota saltellando sui gradini. E' accaduto a Stoccolma, nella stazione metropolitana di Odenplan, dove nella notte un team di lavoratori si è messo all'opera per trasformare la scala, vetta insormontabile al mattino per i più, in un vero e proprio piano.
L'aspetto del marchingegno, nato da un'idea della Volkswagen proprio per combattere la sedentarietà e dichiarare guerra ai chili di troppo, riporta alla memoria la celebre scena del film Big, dove un giovanissimo Tom Hanks si esibisce in un allegro motivetto saltando da un estremo all'altro del mega pianoforte.
E anche i pendolari di passaggio a Odenplan, esattamente as Hanks, could not resist the allure of 'climb the peak' just to be accompanied by a few notes. To the point that the German carmaker announced that as many as 66% has snubbed the escalator, opting for the singular piano. Meanwhile, on 'youtube' crazy, cliccatissima users, amateur videos of commuters who filmed the reaction of people. Do not miss those sudden musician fact, running up and down the stairs in an attempt to sing a melody.
I Gradini Della Metro Come Tasti Di Pianoforte, e Il 66% Dei Pendolari Rinuncia Alle Scale Mobili. (Adnkronos Salute) - Le scale della metro si trasformano in un insolito pianoforte gigante, e il 66% della gente di passaggio decide di dar l'addio all'irrinunciabile scala mobile pur di emettere qualche nota saltellando sui gradini. E' accaduto a Stoccolma, nella stazione metropolitana di Odenplan, dove nella notte un team di lavoratori si è messo all'opera per trasformare la scala, vetta insormontabile al mattino per i più, in un vero e proprio piano.
L'aspetto del marchingegno, nato da un'idea della Volkswagen proprio per combattere la sedentarietà e dichiarare guerra ai chili di troppo, riporta alla memoria la celebre scena del film Big, dove un giovanissimo Tom Hanks si esibisce in un allegro motivetto saltando da un estremo all'altro del mega pianoforte.
E anche i pendolari di passaggio a Odenplan, esattamente as Hanks, could not resist the allure of 'climb the peak' just to be accompanied by a few notes. To the point that the German carmaker announced that as many as 66% has snubbed the escalator, opting for the singular piano. Meanwhile, on 'youtube' crazy, cliccatissima users, amateur videos of commuters who filmed the reaction of people. Do not miss those sudden musician fact, running up and down the stairs in an attempt to sing a melody.
Monday, October 5, 2009
Gforce4 440 Go Compaq
social networking
Hello everyone and welcome back, good and bad ...
This time I will put in front of a very specific question: I would do a picture as a stolen car or do a video while shoplifters at a store? An intelligent person says no hope ..
But the new century, new technology mean that this question can also give a positive response.
I'm not talking about a situation or a possibility but facts. The horde of social networks is coming down on the lifestyle of many people, for the younger (the sadness lies ..) that tend to psychological dependence from the network. How many of you even though there are friends or relatives, in short, when in the company, log on to facebook (or twitter like)? Could I ask you names right now of people who, even when guests need to enter the social network. To highlight some fact: Codacons (abs. consumers) think that the Italians are not able to resist the popular social network to connect even on vacation, by dropping the sale of "old postcards del'80%.
'event - said the President, Carlo Rienzi - now that is ditching the old-fashioned postcards, which record
a sharp drop in sales of 80% over the last five years. "
"According to figures provided by the association, on average, one in every three, even on holiday, can not do without the social networks, and connects at least once a day to your profile or to friends, states and updating information or commenting on photos and news of others. Are also mainly women not able to give up facebook (57% of Facebook-dependent) and the preferred tool for the updates followed by the mobile internet point. "
Returning to the main question, I believe that now is a disease. The fact that I wanted to comment and tell you that we are dealing with thieves who are arrested because of this bad habit of social networks! Simply absurd! Few days ago to Lazio Albano, near Rome, a young man was arrested for burglary, the question sad (or funny you decide) is that the boy was twenty-six "caught" by the police posto per le credenziali private con le quali durante il furto ha effettuato l'accesso su FB!!!!!!!Sembrerebbe follia, è un folle direte voi...E invece non è il solo...Dall'altra parte dell'oceano atlantico, per esattezza in Pennsylvania, un ragazzo di 19 anni è stato arrestato dopo un furto di gioielli in appartamento, catturato per lo stesso motivo: prima di lasciare l'abitazione si è connesso su FB...Non ho parole. Più che dipendenza direi anche stupidità d'alta classe.
Vorrei inoltre sottolineare che i due furbi sono tutti nostri coetanei, per lo più adolescenti e giovani.
Facendo una citazione... Che amarezza..
L'ultimo dato che voglio porre sotto your attention (I hope you're not connected to any social network right now) is that after 10 years of unchallenged domination of the hard online, social networks have made the pass as the volume of traffic generated by users. I suggest if you want to deepen this text "Click: What Millions of People are Doing Online and Why It Matters by Bill Tancer
Ste!
Sources:
http://roma.repubblica.it/dettaglio/mentre-ruba-in-una-casa-si-collega-a-facebook/1736924
http://mashable.com/ 2009/09/17/facebook-robber-arrested /
http://www.lastampa.it/_web/cmstp/tmplrubriche/tecnologia/grubrica.asp?ID_blog=30&ID_articolo=6541&ID_sezione=38&sezione = News
Hello everyone and welcome back, good and bad ...
This time I will put in front of a very specific question: I would do a picture as a stolen car or do a video while shoplifters at a store? An intelligent person says no hope ..
But the new century, new technology mean that this question can also give a positive response.
I'm not talking about a situation or a possibility but facts. The horde of social networks is coming down on the lifestyle of many people, for the younger (the sadness lies ..) that tend to psychological dependence from the network. How many of you even though there are friends or relatives, in short, when in the company, log on to facebook (or twitter like)? Could I ask you names right now of people who, even when guests need to enter the social network. To highlight some fact: Codacons (abs. consumers) think that the Italians are not able to resist the popular social network to connect even on vacation, by dropping the sale of "old postcards del'80%.
'event - said the President, Carlo Rienzi - now that is ditching the old-fashioned postcards, which record
a sharp drop in sales of 80% over the last five years. "
"According to figures provided by the association, on average, one in every three, even on holiday, can not do without the social networks, and connects at least once a day to your profile or to friends, states and updating information or commenting on photos and news of others. Are also mainly women not able to give up facebook (57% of Facebook-dependent) and the preferred tool for the updates followed by the mobile internet point. "
Returning to the main question, I believe that now is a disease. The fact that I wanted to comment and tell you that we are dealing with thieves who are arrested because of this bad habit of social networks! Simply absurd! Few days ago to Lazio Albano, near Rome, a young man was arrested for burglary, the question sad (or funny you decide) is that the boy was twenty-six "caught" by the police posto per le credenziali private con le quali durante il furto ha effettuato l'accesso su FB!!!!!!!Sembrerebbe follia, è un folle direte voi...E invece non è il solo...Dall'altra parte dell'oceano atlantico, per esattezza in Pennsylvania, un ragazzo di 19 anni è stato arrestato dopo un furto di gioielli in appartamento, catturato per lo stesso motivo: prima di lasciare l'abitazione si è connesso su FB...Non ho parole. Più che dipendenza direi anche stupidità d'alta classe.
Vorrei inoltre sottolineare che i due furbi sono tutti nostri coetanei, per lo più adolescenti e giovani.
Facendo una citazione... Che amarezza..
L'ultimo dato che voglio porre sotto your attention (I hope you're not connected to any social network right now) is that after 10 years of unchallenged domination of the hard online, social networks have made the pass as the volume of traffic generated by users. I suggest if you want to deepen this text "Click: What Millions of People are Doing Online and Why It Matters by Bill Tancer
Ste!
Sources:
http://roma.repubblica.it/dettaglio/mentre-ruba-in-una-casa-si-collega-a-facebook/1736924
http://mashable.com/ 2009/09/17/facebook-robber-arrested /
http://www.lastampa.it/_web/cmstp/tmplrubriche/tecnologia/grubrica.asp?ID_blog=30&ID_articolo=6541&ID_sezione=38&sezione = News
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