Blind sex: when sex becomes a blind fashion
Incontri solitari o in coppia: nessuna conoscenza, nessuna relazione, ci si limita a fare sesso e poi non ci si vede più. Persone giovani, carine, con ottime posizioni lavorative e solidi rapporti di coppia. Ma c’è qualcosa che rende questi uomini e donne inquieti, spingendoli alla ricerca di nuove emozioni. Il fenomeno del blind sex, letteralmente sesso alla cieca,scambito tra amici di avventure, consumato nelle case di uno o dell’altro, sta divenendo una vera e propria moda: uomini e donne si incontrano tramite inserzioni, chat room, locali di scambisti dove la trasgressione, il brivido dell’avventura e la curiosità verso l’ignoto la fanno da padrone. L’atto in sé di avere un rapporto sessuale con una persona che non si è scelta e dalla quale non si è scelti permette la spersonalizzazione e quindi la possibilità di dedicarsi solo al proprio ed esclusivo piacere. Si tratta di una forma di trasgressione, che solitamente viene maggiormente ricercata dagli uomini, anche se recenti Research has shown that it is steadily increasing among the female sex, a sign that the woman lives in a more free one's sexuality and their pleasure, overturning the idea of \u200b\u200bfemale eroticism: that in the past was considered the most classic of women's fantasies Today some women decide to put it into practice, especially if in the presence of her man. Once they are involved by their partner, often decide to continue being an active part of the game, as if in a certain way to feel empowered in their sexual behavior and at the same time protected so as to venture in ways they never did.
What, however, that pushes men and women to seek sex buio?
Se per un uomo, è un incontro senza vincoli con una ragazza che esaudisca ogni sua richiesta sessuale senza timori o negazioni, per la donna si tratta di un’ “attività” che piace perché sollecita il suo narcisismo, la fa sentire al centro dell’attenzione di più uomini, e le consente di immedesimarsi nel piacere maschile traendone a sua volta godimento. Si tratta di giochi di ruolo che consentono di dar spazio alle proprie fantasie e ad un lato della propria personalità solitamente relegato in un angolo nascosto dal quotidiano. Non si tratta solo di un travestimento esteriore, ma si cerca di aderire a quel nuovo ruolo anche interiormente. Tra le persone che praticano questo tipo di gioco si raggiunge un’intimità total, but then it goes back to being unknown. You should never mix friendship and sex, and if we meet in a different environment, the rule is ignored.
in pairs? In
blind sex you transgress the rules within a couple: in every union quietly settling in fact, during its course of growth, points of no return, or silent agreement related to what the couple can tolerate it or not, what that is, that can lead to the disintegration of the couple and therefore should be avoided. However in the case of gender blind, we are faced with bonds in which, instead of being a point of no return, to make love to another is challenging and still is a game that gives you time to time with mutual agreement, without any emotional involvement with casual partners. The presence of the regular partner is a lifeline psychological: You feel protected because it is like plunging into the empty net. However, not necessarily those who participate in these meetings does your partner. Sometimes people leave out of their erotic games mate for fear that this can not fail to understand and share the emotions that are unleashed: the blind so sex becomes a personal space where you feel free and give you a response to their curiosity and trends.
But we are also aware of the psychological risks?
engage in sex so outrageous, as long as does not become the sole expression of eros (in which case we would be facing a disturbance to the event), it can be fun if that's what you really want with awareness. However, difficulties can arise for various psychological reasons, first of all be considered the clear difference between theory and practice: while the female fantasy of having sex with a stranger is very common, when you put in place must come to terms with reality. If your imagination has total control of the scene, in reality you're two, you do not have total control of events and more will crown the real risks being another perfect stranger. You should also consider l’effetto del giudizio morale e del senso di colpa: se sono comportamenti che fino in fondo non corrispondono alle reali aspettative e necessità l’autostima può essere terribilmente minata e con essa, se si è in coppia, la solidità dell’unione.
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low sexual desire: set the interest of the couple? men and women compared
Possiamo classificare il desiderio sessuale in: mentale, corporeo, relazionale. Mentale è il desiderio partorito dalla testa che cerca occasioni di realizzazione, si nutre di immagini e fantasie; corporeo quello che nasce dal contatto, dalla stimolazione efficace, dal piacere di essere toccati e di toccare; relazionale è il piacere stimolato dalla presenza, visione-contatto, con una persona particolare che diventa la fonte del desiderio, in 'happen' s meeting. In all these examples may wish to speak with a mental pleasure that translates into excitement and that can keep up to the creation of 'sexual act, or it can remain in early stages, or abort.
To understand, however, decreased sexual desire and its consequences in a pair is necessary first of all take a step back and see how you structure the same desire in both partners.
There is no difference between men and women as regards the ability to fall in love, both, in every civilization and culture, fall in love with the same ease and intensity, but the two sexes seem to differ in 'analysis of the characteristics of the partner: while men prefer indicators of beauty, health and youth, women are less interested in the physical characteristics of the partner preference of strength, power and dominance. Women are also much more likely to interpret facial expressions, gestures and nonverbal cues during a relationship but this capacity is lacking, as if they are no longer able to reflect and collect information on who they face. In the case of men, however, in the light of education and culture reference, are brought more to control their emotions and are less intuitive about the connotations of nonverbal emotions. Also as regards the sex drive there are differences: sebbene forte in ambo i sessi, essendo la spinta principale per la riproduzione e quindi per la sopravvivenza della specie, è qualitativamente diverso, anche prescindendo dal condizionamento esercitato per secoli dalle molteplici imposizioni culturali e religiose che attualmente stanno perdendo importanza. Le donne, infatti, di base pensano al sesso meno rispetto agli uomini, ma il divario si sta riducendo: sempre più donne oggi manifestano apertamente il desiderio e la necessità di vivere e di esprimere la propria sessualità, libere da ogni imposizione culturale-religiosa. Il desiderio sessuale negli uomini rimanda maggiormente a stimolazioni erotiche di carattere visivo e con una soglia più bassa rispetto alle donne: basta spesso un nonnulla perchè si scateni in loro l’eccitazione, di solito più legata ad oggetti e piccoli dettagli ( una spallina che scende o un accavallamento di gambe) che non alla situazione e all’atmosfera in sé come invece per le donne. In quest’ultime infatti la libido si scatena con maggior facilità se c’è un coinvolgimento emotivo, se il partner è affettuoso ( quindi potenziale futuro compagno) e se parla nella maniera giusta: la donna riesce ad eccitarsi grazie ad una maggiore varietà di stimoli perché i suoi organi di senso sono più raffinati rispetto a quelli degli uomini. La diversità dell’impulso sessuale tra uomini e donne affonda probabilmente le sue radici nella necessità della donna primitiva di tenere tied itself to the partners had to ensure the protection and sustenance to the family. One could therefore say that the sex drive in humans focused on the act itself, while the woman is more attentive to a series of signals that are beyond the physical because of this primordial attention to environmental signals and any changes that could threaten the couple or their offspring.
That said we explore the causes of the decline or lack of sexual desire: sexual inhibition
strong moral and religious grounds,
- feelings of inadequacy,
- stress and depression,
- lack of interest in your partner ,
- excessive claims to the / of the partners,
- conflicts and problems of torque
- disappointments,
- contrasts the choices of when and how to implement the 'sexual encounter,
- conflicts over who takes the' initiative, how sexuality is held.
regard male sexuality one of the major causes of lack of desire is the 'anxiety due to insufficient or poor sexual functioning that can lead to a defensive mechanism, inhibiting the desire to prevent the recurrence of unpleasant situation. The mechanism of involuntary 'erection then determines a set of anxieties in the wake of thoughts related to inadequate basic beliefs about: that's why in some cases the absence desire can become a total impediment to 'sexual encounter and produce progressive blocks. The person in front of the sexual act and advances has been negative about their performance and expectations of the partner with the outcome of a match is not satisfactory. From a social point of view increasingly a cause of the fall of male desire applicant is represented by changing the symbolic meaning of gestures and ways of relating in the male-female relationship. In particular with regard to sexuality have changed in a relatively short period, the situations and roles established, gestures and rituals of seduction and of 'sexual activity, emotional and moral judgments sul significato e sulla realizzazione della sessualità stessa. La donna vede riconosciuta oggi come oggi la propria sessualità e le proprie esigenze in merito procedendo ad un continuo aggiustamento e verifica delle regole, con un progressivo indebolimento del carisma maschile .
Mentre dunque nell’uomo il calo del desiderio e le disfunzioni sessuali sono piuttosto visibili, nelle donne il disturbo non è altrettanto evidente, ma questo non significa non ci sia.Nella donna le basi biologiche del desiderio sono da ricercare nei due ormoni: androgeni e estrogeni, e quando uno dei due o entrambi vengono a mancare o diminuiscono la donna può avere un brusco calo della libido. La menopausa chirurgica, il climaterio dovuto all’età, use of hormonal medications are the cause of this problem. However very often the reason related to the loss of desire, is to be found also in some pathological conditions such as depression, hypertension and thyroid disease and medication to treat them, can have a negative impact on women's sexuality. Then consider that even without the birth of a son, conflicts with the partner, the monotony of marriage, the fraternal attachment to the companion and work stress and family are all factors that may help turn off the desire.
All 'but a domestic relationship or a relationship established the lack of desire to create a lot of anxiety especially partners often must decide whether this is due to external causes or internal to the report. May occur naturally periods of loss of desire that is good to live as physiological and not worrisome. The desire is in fact subject to life cycles. But when the conduct of consolidated or lack of interest tends to increase it must try to understand if a problem is subjective (stress, anxiety, work, drugs, psycho-physical state of being unwell) or relational (affective misunderstandings, sexual boredom, other interests, hostility). Hardly, as is the other relationship problems, the mere talk leads to changes: the discussions tend to degenerate into quarrels: uin Dallora should be associated with a possible drug therapy individual or couple of meetings with a psychologist to understand the causes and identify the decisive strategy
Possiamo classificare il desiderio sessuale in: mentale, corporeo, relazionale. Mentale è il desiderio partorito dalla testa che cerca occasioni di realizzazione, si nutre di immagini e fantasie; corporeo quello che nasce dal contatto, dalla stimolazione efficace, dal piacere di essere toccati e di toccare; relazionale è il piacere stimolato dalla presenza, visione-contatto, con una persona particolare che diventa la fonte del desiderio, in 'happen' s meeting. In all these examples may wish to speak with a mental pleasure that translates into excitement and that can keep up to the creation of 'sexual act, or it can remain in early stages, or abort.
To understand, however, decreased sexual desire and its consequences in a pair is necessary first of all take a step back and see how you structure the same desire in both partners.
There is no difference between men and women as regards the ability to fall in love, both, in every civilization and culture, fall in love with the same ease and intensity, but the two sexes seem to differ in 'analysis of the characteristics of the partner: while men prefer indicators of beauty, health and youth, women are less interested in the physical characteristics of the partner preference of strength, power and dominance. Women are also much more likely to interpret facial expressions, gestures and nonverbal cues during a relationship but this capacity is lacking, as if they are no longer able to reflect and collect information on who they face. In the case of men, however, in the light of education and culture reference, are brought more to control their emotions and are less intuitive about the connotations of nonverbal emotions. Also as regards the sex drive there are differences: sebbene forte in ambo i sessi, essendo la spinta principale per la riproduzione e quindi per la sopravvivenza della specie, è qualitativamente diverso, anche prescindendo dal condizionamento esercitato per secoli dalle molteplici imposizioni culturali e religiose che attualmente stanno perdendo importanza. Le donne, infatti, di base pensano al sesso meno rispetto agli uomini, ma il divario si sta riducendo: sempre più donne oggi manifestano apertamente il desiderio e la necessità di vivere e di esprimere la propria sessualità, libere da ogni imposizione culturale-religiosa. Il desiderio sessuale negli uomini rimanda maggiormente a stimolazioni erotiche di carattere visivo e con una soglia più bassa rispetto alle donne: basta spesso un nonnulla perchè si scateni in loro l’eccitazione, di solito più legata ad oggetti e piccoli dettagli ( una spallina che scende o un accavallamento di gambe) che non alla situazione e all’atmosfera in sé come invece per le donne. In quest’ultime infatti la libido si scatena con maggior facilità se c’è un coinvolgimento emotivo, se il partner è affettuoso ( quindi potenziale futuro compagno) e se parla nella maniera giusta: la donna riesce ad eccitarsi grazie ad una maggiore varietà di stimoli perché i suoi organi di senso sono più raffinati rispetto a quelli degli uomini. La diversità dell’impulso sessuale tra uomini e donne affonda probabilmente le sue radici nella necessità della donna primitiva di tenere tied itself to the partners had to ensure the protection and sustenance to the family. One could therefore say that the sex drive in humans focused on the act itself, while the woman is more attentive to a series of signals that are beyond the physical because of this primordial attention to environmental signals and any changes that could threaten the couple or their offspring.
That said we explore the causes of the decline or lack of sexual desire: sexual inhibition
strong moral and religious grounds,
- feelings of inadequacy,
- stress and depression,
- lack of interest in your partner ,
- excessive claims to the / of the partners,
- conflicts and problems of torque
- disappointments,
- contrasts the choices of when and how to implement the 'sexual encounter,
- conflicts over who takes the' initiative, how sexuality is held.
regard male sexuality one of the major causes of lack of desire is the 'anxiety due to insufficient or poor sexual functioning that can lead to a defensive mechanism, inhibiting the desire to prevent the recurrence of unpleasant situation. The mechanism of involuntary 'erection then determines a set of anxieties in the wake of thoughts related to inadequate basic beliefs about: that's why in some cases the absence desire can become a total impediment to 'sexual encounter and produce progressive blocks. The person in front of the sexual act and advances has been negative about their performance and expectations of the partner with the outcome of a match is not satisfactory. From a social point of view increasingly a cause of the fall of male desire applicant is represented by changing the symbolic meaning of gestures and ways of relating in the male-female relationship. In particular with regard to sexuality have changed in a relatively short period, the situations and roles established, gestures and rituals of seduction and of 'sexual activity, emotional and moral judgments sul significato e sulla realizzazione della sessualità stessa. La donna vede riconosciuta oggi come oggi la propria sessualità e le proprie esigenze in merito procedendo ad un continuo aggiustamento e verifica delle regole, con un progressivo indebolimento del carisma maschile .
Mentre dunque nell’uomo il calo del desiderio e le disfunzioni sessuali sono piuttosto visibili, nelle donne il disturbo non è altrettanto evidente, ma questo non significa non ci sia.Nella donna le basi biologiche del desiderio sono da ricercare nei due ormoni: androgeni e estrogeni, e quando uno dei due o entrambi vengono a mancare o diminuiscono la donna può avere un brusco calo della libido. La menopausa chirurgica, il climaterio dovuto all’età, use of hormonal medications are the cause of this problem. However very often the reason related to the loss of desire, is to be found also in some pathological conditions such as depression, hypertension and thyroid disease and medication to treat them, can have a negative impact on women's sexuality. Then consider that even without the birth of a son, conflicts with the partner, the monotony of marriage, the fraternal attachment to the companion and work stress and family are all factors that may help turn off the desire.
All 'but a domestic relationship or a relationship established the lack of desire to create a lot of anxiety especially partners often must decide whether this is due to external causes or internal to the report. May occur naturally periods of loss of desire that is good to live as physiological and not worrisome. The desire is in fact subject to life cycles. But when the conduct of consolidated or lack of interest tends to increase it must try to understand if a problem is subjective (stress, anxiety, work, drugs, psycho-physical state of being unwell) or relational (affective misunderstandings, sexual boredom, other interests, hostility). Hardly, as is the other relationship problems, the mere talk leads to changes: the discussions tend to degenerate into quarrels: uin Dallora should be associated with a possible drug therapy individual or couple of meetings with a psychologist to understand the causes and identify the decisive strategy
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